The "D" word

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Re: The "D" word

Postby Sara » Fri Aug 16, 2013 2:17 am

mina wrote:sara :hug: thank you for sharing that.

:hugs: Thanks, Mina.
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Re: The "D" word

Postby Ethnog » Fri Aug 16, 2013 2:18 am

Oh Sara, thank you for sharing your story. That was heart wrenching to read.
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Re: The "D" word

Postby Sara » Fri Aug 16, 2013 2:19 am

Ethnog wrote:Oh Sara, thank you for sharing your story. That was heart wrenching to read.

It was heart wrenching to live. I hope no one else ever does.

Thank you for reading it.
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Re: The "D" word

Postby little_tigress » Fri Aug 16, 2013 2:32 am

Wow, Sara. Thank you for sharing all of that with us. Its so powerful, and I think you handled it amazingly.
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Re: The "D" word

Postby Sara » Fri Aug 16, 2013 2:39 am

little_tigress wrote:Wow, Sara. Thank you for sharing all of that with us. Its so powerful, and I think you handled it amazingly.

Thank you.
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Re: The "D" word

Postby Marycita » Fri Aug 16, 2013 2:53 am

Hugs, Sara! Thank you for sharing.
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Re: The "D" word

Postby Sara » Fri Aug 16, 2013 3:00 am

Marycita wrote:Hugs, Sara! Thank you for sharing.

Hugs to you. Thanks for reading, Mary.
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Re: The "D" word

Postby Fremdin » Fri Aug 16, 2013 3:05 am

My best friend just filed for divorce and it was a hard choice. The thing is she had a good life and a great husband but he was so much older than her (27 years). I just didn't work out and was only going to get worse. I'm sad for her but I understand why she is doing it. Still though, I hate it for her and I don't know if I could do it.
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Re: The "D" word

Postby Kenobi » Fri Aug 16, 2013 3:07 am

Thank you for sharing your story, Sara. I cannot imagine living through something like that and having to make those decisions, it must have be heartbreaking. Hugs to you!!

mina wrote:I think abuse (mental, emotional, physical, sexual ) and adultery are very valid reasons for divorce. I do think that couples should strive to work things out and that ultimately God hates divorce; but working things out can be pretty hard if it's one-sided and the other person refuses to stop and repent or refuses to get help or is endangering their spouse's life.

I feel like divorce is not an option in my own marriage ever.


I agree with this. This is the reason that my mom finally left my dad (abuse - both to her and to myself and my siblings, and adultery). She tried for years to work things out, and at times my dad would make an effort, but when he was no longer willing to make an effort or change his behavior, she left. She prayed until the day he died that her family would be able to be back together again. She never remarried, and I don't know if she plans to. She does not like divorce and always recommends that the couple try to work things out first when she is counseling other couples now.
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Re: The "D" word

Postby Edwards1984 » Fri Aug 16, 2013 4:06 am

Sara wrote:I decided to share. Please feel free to skip over my post. I will put a TLDR at the end. :)
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I'm very sorry to hear all that, Sara :( Sorry mostly you had to go through that. No one should.

If it means anything, it sounds like you did all the right things. You gave him a second chance, which is a lot more than some wives would. You tried to make it work, and considered all things prayerfully. Don't let anyone tell you that you were somehow in the wrong or the reason for it.
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