Wren wrote:While I'm a person who thinks "divorce is not an option," that's because of my husband. I truly believe he would never abuse me or our child(ren) and he'd never cheat on me. But I have seen too many horrific marriages or family situations for me to judge someone who's divorced. And there may not be anything in the Bible about beatings or rape (of the spouse and/or children), but I think that is largely due to the culture/times of when the books of the Bible were written.
Same here. I also could never judge anyone who is divorced; if I were in the same situation with the same variables I could just as easily opt for that option. Within my own family, sibling's marriages I've seen really bad situations and ALWAYS it ended up being a one sided situation with one spouse willing to fight for a marriage that the other spouse was intent on maliciously breaking apart or controlling or had already left. I don't think naivety comes from knowing your own spouse and what your own marriage can handle, but in thinking that any marriage is better to stay in rather than stay alive, stay safe, keep your children safe, etc... I think marriage vows are very important to uphold; but I also wouldn't advise a spouse that is getting beaten or their child is being molested by their spouse (etc..) to stay and continue allowing the spouse to harm or kill them; things that are extreme and go much further than silly petty reasons for divorce that people can throw around like "they got fat" or "they forget to unload the dishwasher and I'm tired of them".