The Honeymoon

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Re: The Honeymoon

Postby waves16 » Sun Mar 30, 2014 7:59 am

I'm a big fan of the "wait 1-4 weeks before honeymooning" idea. I can't imagine having a wedding and a large trip, two huge life events, crammed so close together. I would probably lose my mind trying to plan it all out.
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Postby mina » Sun Mar 30, 2014 1:41 pm

I think traditionally as far as wedding etiquette and rules and such (who made that stuff up???), the woman and her family were supposed to plan the wedding, and the man was supposed to plan the honeymoon, and never the twain shall meet. So the bride was sorta free to plan the wedding and leaving the afternoon or evening of the wedding for the honeymoon was feasible. Also, people had more of a community sense, the bride's family and wedding party really really was supposed to help her- pack and make sure she had the right kind of clothes, etc… Also, weddings were more simple in the past, even if they were elaborate by the past's standards. There wasn't a huge wedding industry with millions of choices: you had a church date, a dress, like two choices of flowers, one and only one wedding picture, and a cake and punch reception. Now the cultural expectations and the wedding industry has changed all that. Having a simple wedding is still doable but more than likely the bride and groom are making all the choices together. I'm also a big fan of wait and settle in just enjoying marriage before honeymooning. All the memories are special to the couple, not just the "we left right after the wedding for the honeymoon" crowd. They don't have the corner on memories , lol. Whatever way you decide to take a honeymoon will be special and memorable!
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Re: The Honeymoon

Postby little_tigress » Sun Mar 30, 2014 4:28 pm

I don't know that I'd want too leave immediately after the wedding. Especially if I have guests from out of town, I think I'd want a little time to visit with them

But then again, after planning a full wedding, I might just want a relaxing vacation afterwards :P
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Re: The Honeymoon

Postby Ethnog » Sun Mar 30, 2014 4:41 pm

I always thought leaving a honeymoons right away took all the fun of "wow we are now married." I would like it a week or so after so that we can take it all in... Get settled in the home, have family over (which I know will happen a lot with my family), and open gifts.
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Re: The Honeymoon

Postby Sara » Sun Mar 30, 2014 6:43 pm

We never even went on a honeymoon, really. We went on a short vacation with his sister's family about six months after we were married.
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Re: The Honeymoon

Postby Touma » Mon Mar 31, 2014 7:10 pm

I want to go to Peru or take a ride from Portugal, across Northern Spain, across Southern France, into Northern Italy, go up to Austria, over to Budapest, Hungary, and then down to Croatia.

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Re: The Honeymoon

Postby Wesley » Mon Mar 31, 2014 9:48 pm

Touma wrote:I want to go to Peru or take a ride from Portugal, across Northern Spain, across Southern France, into Northern Italy, go up to Austria, over to Budapest, Hungary, and then down to Croatia.

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I see you've thought about this for a little bit. =)

When you say ride, do you mean bikes or something motorized?
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Re: The Honeymoon

Postby little_tigress » Mon Mar 31, 2014 10:16 pm

Ethnog wrote:I always thought leaving a honeymoons right away took all the fun of "wow we are now married." I would like it a week or so after so that we can take it all in... Get settled in the home, have family over (which I know will happen a lot with my family), and open gifts.



Yeah, the more I think about it the more I like that idea. My roommate just got married and they left on their honeymoon immediately after the wedding and she told me just the other day that she doesn't really "feel" married because they put off settling into their new life together after the wedding.
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Re: The Honeymoon

Postby Wren » Mon Mar 31, 2014 11:32 pm

We had our honeymoon-ish (as I said earlier, it was part honeymoon and part family reunion) a couple of weeks after our wedding and I'm so glad. We were only engaged for a month as it is, so to go straight to the honeymoon would have been too much. Especially with going overseas for the first time ever (for me, obviously not him), it was nice to have a little time inbetween to go from preparing for the wedding to mentally (since the visa and such was already taken care of at that point) preparing for the trip and meeting his family. Though obviously our situation was not standard and maybe I wouldn't have minded a honeymoon right after the wedding if we had months of wedding and honeymoon planning and a family reunion wasn't part of the honeymoon.

And for me, it took way more than two weeks to truly feel married. I would have had to put the honeymoon off for months, if I wanted to feel truly married when I honeymooned. (Feeling like a mother was the same way, like "who is this crying child; it could not possibly have come from me." That took a little bit, too.)
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Re: The Honeymoon

Postby Touma » Tue Apr 01, 2014 2:03 am

Wesley wrote:
Touma wrote:I want to go to Peru or take a ride from Portugal, across Northern Spain, across Southern France, into Northern Italy, go up to Austria, over to Budapest, Hungary, and then down to Croatia.

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I see you've thought about this for a little bit. =)

When you say ride, do you mean bikes or something motorized?



I would like to drive it. Although, train would be a good option too. Bikes would take forever. :P
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