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Separate Beds?

Postby little_tigress » Sun Nov 24, 2013 9:56 pm

So according to this article one key to a happy marriage is sleeping in separate beds.

What do you think about that?
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Re: Separate Beds?

Postby mina » Sun Nov 24, 2013 10:10 pm

no; unless someone snores badly or is a restless sleeper.
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Re: Separate Beds?

Postby Wren » Mon Nov 25, 2013 12:50 am

I don't think they are necessarily good or bad. It really depends on the couple. When I was single, I didn't see how it could possibly be a good thing, but good sleep makes for much happier people. And you'd think well-rested happy people would be good in a marriage. And not everyone is a cuddler that needs to sleep closely for a good relationship.
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Re: Separate Beds?

Postby TX_CO_Matt » Mon Dec 02, 2013 7:07 pm

mina wrote:no; unless someone snores badly or is a restless sleeper.



This. My parents have to sleep in separate bedrooms my mom snores so bad.
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Re: Separate Beds?

Postby little_tigress » Mon Dec 02, 2013 7:21 pm

I've actually pondered this for myself if I should ever get married. Sleep and I really haven't been friends for most of my life. Over the last year, there seems to be a reconciliation of sorts. But I tend to be a rather light sleeper most nights, so I do wonder if separate beds might be a good idea in that situation.

But then again, one of my love languages is touch and being physically close (referring purely to actual closeness and sleeping. nothing more :P) would be a wonderful thing in and of itself so I do want to share a bed with my husband. But I do see why some may choose separate beds or even separate rooms.
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Re: Separate Beds?

Postby Kenobi » Wed Dec 04, 2013 6:09 am

I think it depends on the couple. Some people (like me) have a hard time sleeping and don't want to keep their spouse awake, so some nights it's better for both of us if we're not in the same bed. I don't think being in separate beds has to mean that you're not close as a couple.
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Re: Separate Beds?

Postby Miles » Sat Dec 14, 2013 4:45 pm

I think it's good to have options. Couples should do whatever works best for them.
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Re: Separate Beds?

Postby Ethnog » Sat Dec 14, 2013 7:16 pm

Miles wrote:I think it's good to have options. Couples should do whatever works best for them.

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Re: Separate Beds?

Postby Spunkn » Sun Dec 15, 2013 1:38 am

Sounds pretty stupid / weird to me unless it's for health reasons or something like that. Snoring you can do things to help or take care of it now days.
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Re: Separate Beds?

Postby Fremdin » Sun Jan 05, 2014 3:12 pm

I personally like the idea of having separate bedrooms. I need a space that is wholly mine to be happy. Realistically I'm not ever going to be with someone i can be with 24 hours a day. I'm a loner by nature and even though I will love my husband and cherish our time together, I still need a retreat. He can come to my room or I can go to his but i don't want to not have the option of being by myself.
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