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Postby little_tigress » Tue Nov 19, 2013 6:48 pm

Do you believe its a sign of an unhealthy relationship if the couple never fights?
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Re: Fighting

Postby FLGator_Chicky » Tue Nov 19, 2013 7:09 pm

Do you mean that they never disagree or that they never fight? There is a difference. lol

My BIL and sister never fight, though they do have disagreements. They are, by far, one of the most solid couples I know and have a very healthy relationship.
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Re: Fighting

Postby mina » Tue Nov 19, 2013 7:12 pm

We don't really fight. But we do disagree. I think it's important to learn how to fight well and disagree well; but I don't think you have to fight in order to have a healthy or non healthy relationship.
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Re: Fighting

Postby Wren » Wed Nov 20, 2013 1:53 am

If we use the word fight loosely, then I do think it's unhealthy to never fight. But if a couple never fight-fights, that can be very healthy.

If you never have disagreements, you're not human or are stuffing how you feel, IMO. But you can handle those disagreements in a calm and mature manner, with it never blowing up into a real fight.
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Re: Fighting

Postby Wesley » Wed Nov 20, 2013 5:06 am

From the Italian side of my family, fighting is a given. Or rather, what non-Italians would call fighting. They think of it as "discussing at the top of your lungs and flailing one's limbs around." It seems to work for them, I... guess? Nevertheless, I think disagreements can get impassioned, but insofar as there is no threat of violence or intimidation, I think one can occasionally get a bit animated. Christ certainly did, even at his own people. God the Father did... but it was certainly the exception. As the Bible says, and I'm paraphrasing: there is a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing. There is a time to rend, and a time to sew together.

I would think that animated discussions should be the exception to the general rule though. :lol:
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Re: Fighting

Postby Spunkn » Thu Nov 21, 2013 1:11 am

You can disagree and discuss two sides of an issue without fighting. Basically what everybody said already.
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Re: Fighting

Postby Kenobi » Wed Dec 04, 2013 6:11 am

We used to fight - like all-out, screaming, middle-of-the-night fights. We don't do that anymore and our relationship is MUCH healthier. We do, however, still have disagreements, which I think is a healthy thing to know how to discuss/resolve them without fighting.
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Re: Fighting

Postby MacFall » Sat Jun 21, 2014 3:53 am

The Apostles consistently taught that we should not be quarrelsome and contentious. The Greek is "amachos", which literally means "not-fighting".

Of course everyone will have disagreements, and in a healthy relationship those disagreements will be expressed. But if you can't disagree without fighting, your relationship is not healthy. The fruit of the Spirit is a good guide for expressing disagreement. Does your expression reveal love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control in yourself? Just as importantly, does it cause those traits to grow in others?
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