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[little_tigress]

So I follow a local news/editorial blog for my city. And today they posted this.

I just rolled my eyes. If a guy I didn't know tried grabbing my hand to lead me anywhere... Well that's just not going to turn out well.

Guys have tried this with me (not the handholding, but there was hugging and kissing on the cheek -not my idea or initiation), and i know this approach does not work on me. It just makes me uncomfortable and I start looking for an escape route. Even if he is confident and good looking.

Maybe there's just something around with me

Anyway. Would you try this? Would you be open to it if someone tried this with you?

http://www.vancitybuzz.com/2014/03/how- ... vancouver/

[mina]

Asking someone out the minute you meet them is not terribly terrible. If I were single, I would give a guy points for being confident enough to ask. I don't think asking is "weak". But that takes a certain finesse. Grabbing someone's hand to "lead" them anywhere within 5 min. of meeting is just creepy and controlling. I don't think he's promoting that literally; but to not phrase it as a question on the unsuspecting person so they will follow the lead. But, even though that is "confident" and all; I don't think it's very respectful.

[little_tigress]

Yeah, I'm not offended by the guy who would ask me out quickly. That can be very flattering, done right.

Its when the guy comes on too strong and cocky that makes me think, "nope." And physical touch like what he's describing (or what I experienced)... Double nope.

[Amber]

I like the concept in general. Seeing a stranger, wanting a connection, and making it happen. But I see all the pot holes of this approach also. I think that for 99% of the males out there this would fail them because their confidence could be taken as arrogance or their whole "I like you even though I just saw you" could have a desperate/creepy factor to it.

[Ethnog]

I got asked out that way a few weeks ago. I thought his confidence was great. He wasn't pushy and he said what he had to at the moment. He knew what he wanted and went for it.
Now if he grabbed my hand I would feel awkward but if we were crossing a busy street and had to do it quickly I wouldn't really give it much thought or analyze why so much.
Would more regetions happen this way? Maybe, but you never know.

[MacFall]

I'd probably be too flattered to say no. But I doubt that anything serious could come out of it. I'm still 100% aboard the "friends first" train.

[Barefeetonholyground]

Oh no way. In my mind this translates into "I'm a creepy stalker desperate for attention." And I have been approached in grocery stores, bus stops (so glad I own a car now), and who knows where else and it annoys me. At least know my name before asking me on a date. Then maybe you'll get the idea that I'm not "easy."